the “one”
I very recently had a conversation with a friend about the “one”. Meaning of course the “love of your life”, the end all be all “happily ever after”, and/or “soul mate”. And this got me thinking, do I believe in the “one” maybe I do maybe I don’t…but all that really matters is the possibility of the “one”. Most of what I’ve heard about this soul mate figure is what everyone wants them to be. When a relationship ends you think “well they just weren’t the one”, which usually follows with a list of reasons why they were not. BUT rarely do we think about ourselves as the “one” for that “one” out there in the world. If it is true we are all predestined for another someone out there in the world, then what are you doing for them? Are you the person today that is ready to be with your perfect match? This is the conundrum I fell into with the friend I held this conversation with. Have I got it all figured out yet, am I the person I want to be…yet? Or is the job of this “one” to help me become this better self? I say that what is important is to not alter yourself into what we would believe to be the perfect version of our own selves for this magical, and somewhat illusive “one”. Because if we really are created with another half, or even just created with the capability to find true happiness, then Ibelieve it starts with being truthful. Firstly with yourself, not trying to be someone you are not. This sounds cliche but I see people everyday putting themselves out there as the person they believe to be likeable…but then isn’t that just a lie. I say be yourself and the rest will fall into place. Usually the best things in life happen when you’re not forcing them or expecting them to happen. Who cares if there is or isn’t a “one”. Just be happy as the person you are and guess what, you’ll end up finding people who are more like you, instead of forcing a persona and not liking the people who are attracted to the false image you portrayed. This has somewhat turned into a rant, but all I’m really saying is that bettering yourself is a great thing as long as it is for you and not for someone else, and especially not for the “one”.
